Hey, just curious on what kind of advice you people out there can give on meeting girls and actually try & starting a relationship etc....

Thanks!!

be yourself. :)

be yourself. :)

HaHa...Wish that was true..A lot harder than you think...Thanks!

Just seeing what others think...

be yourself. :)

Sounds like great advice to me! :wink: What's so hard about it? I guess if you explained your current tactics, that would help with the advice.

This sounds depressing but one thing that seems to work is to just give up. Seriously, this has happened to several people I know. Accept the fact that you're never going to meet anyone and suddenly the girls will be all over you because you'll be relaxed, aloof and yourself! I think we have a 6th sense when it comes to guys being sad or desperate and that's a turn off. :lol:

Good luck!!!

be yourself. :)

Sounds like great advice to me! :wink: What's so hard about it? I guess if you explained your current tactics, that would help with the advice.

This sounds depressing but one thing that seems to work is to just give up. Seriously, this has happened to several people I know. Accept the fact that you're never going to meet anyone and suddenly the girls will be all over you because you'll be relaxed, aloof and yourself! I think we have a 6th sense when it comes to guys being sad or desperate and that's a turn off. :lol:

Good luck!!!

Cool..wish most girls think like you...I live in southern Cali and most girls here are Full of themselves and snobby and kinda "fake" too...Then ALL the "nice" girls are married or have b/f's already..HaHa...so yea...

I dont have any tactics...lol..Thats why I started this topic!!

Then ALL the "nice" girls are married or have b/f's already..HaHa...so yea...

Funny, all of us single girls say ALL the "nice" guys are married or have b/fs already. :rofl: I swear, it's because they get to be themselves and aren't saying and doing stupid things to get our attention!

Make her laugh and smile...that usually works... :clap:

Yeah and all us nice guys say all the good girls want bad boys. :pray:

let me say after about 2.5 years of not actting like myself and returned too being/actting myself got me divorced

like i care now i'm happy

Drive a Scion, chicks love them.. :rofl:

and as soon as you notice someone take advantage of you ... get out.. and if you really feel strongly for the person.. tell the person and make sure it's mutual.. if not get out.. and bounce..

Yeah and all us nice guys say all the good girls want bad boys. :pray:

Ain't that the truth :P

wear cologne, floss, comb hair, clean shoes. bam u get gurls like flies. oh wait thats me.

umm be urself.

Apparently I have NO game...haha.....Oh well....Thanks for the advice everyone...Keep them coming!!

you gotta spit madd game yo.

dress up like superman and go to comic-con this weekend. you'll get some attention.
you're lucky you're in san diego.... i would be down there this weekend for the con, but i have family stuff.
san diego will be infested with thousands of people this weekend... no reason you can't meet someone to hang out with.

and while you're there... say hi to guy and geoff.. they should be there selling t-shirts and dvds and other RvB stuff.... (at the RvB booth of course... if you can find it) and get yourself a lightish red t-shirt, wear it and walk around... trust me... you'll get compliments. unless that's not your thing.. but hey... whatever.

"I would just like to let everyone know that I'm a girl, and I like ribbons in my hair, and I want to kiss all the boys."
- Grif

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That and don't treat them as nice as you would like to. Sounds retarded, but trust me it works. For some reason chicks say they want a nice guy but they really want the badboys. But yeah, mainly $.

First off, understand that the ladies think in a different way than guys. Drop all logic when chatting them up.

Do not put them on a pedestal.
Do not be afraid to be a man.
Do NOT spend loads of cash on a date ($40 or less per date).
No daytime dates.
If the two of you are of age, go have some drinks.
Do NOT waste time. Be direct. If she says no, great. You do not have to spend any more time going after her...on to the next one.

Don't ever LIE!! Its the biggest turnoff ever in the world!

Observe how girls act; you will notice what they say they want and what they really want are two different things.

Girls act first, then they justify.

you gotta be a little agressive with the snobs, make em laugh, but don't make them think it's all about them, plus, the girl is not the only catch in a relationship, make her a$$ work for you too, cuz i feel i'm a dime just as much as she thinks she is.....there really is nothing "special" you have to say to a female to get her attention, just something, DIFFERENT!.... but not off the wall different, i mean just something simple as an "excuse me" works about 98% of the time, most guys don't take that "respectful" approach and thats what a lotta females look for....but different sitiuations can vary as far as your approach, just don't be afraid, whats the worse that can happen? she'll just tell you no, and move on......

I use awesome home-made pickup lines.

I'll lean up cheezily on the bar and say:

"Hey, did you just get back from vacation?"

She'll know that it's a corny pickup line... and grudgingly say, "no.... why?"

Then I say: "Cause it looks like you have alot of baggage."

Then I laugh... Cause I'm hilarious.

If she laughs, she's awesome. If she doesn't get it or gets upset... she's not worth the fuss.

Works every time.

Confidence.

Nothing drops panties more than confidence.

^ :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: :rofl: THAT is hillarious! i'd be rolling on the floor if i heard someone say that to someone else!

I have another... but it's kind of horrible.

after the first one, you MUST share more lol

ok... here goes...

"SO, are you baking bread?"

She'll look really comfused and say "no, why?"

Then you motion twards her bottom half and say "Cause it looks like you got alot of yeast DOWN THERE"

That one takes a SUPER awesome chick to accept. If she laughs at that... you're in.

I have another... but it's kind of horrible.

Does it have to do withher parents being terrorists cause she's da bomb?

Do you guys REALLY get any play from those lines?

I've never used a line (don't have the courage to). I just collect the funnier ones for situations like this. =)

i agree with not putting the Pu$$y on a pedestal..............had a pause n laugh for a moment had a movie flashback........anyway, i think thats why a lotta .....some guys are afraid to approach women because they put them on a pedestal, remember, their just people too, jus go at them correct and dont' make it seem like you just HAVE to say the right thing, be yourself like they say, i mean the same way you make friends at school, the same way you can talk to a girl you sit in class with, just treat a person you see on the street that you are attracted to as a classmate, talk to her like you've sat in class with her for 3 years! your just talking to another person that's all, there is no technique or anything special required, just do you.....and if she is a kosher girl then she will respect you for being genuine, but if she is a fake, fabricated, dubious, materialistic B1t!h like most of these females are ...well then you'll just have to continue your search.....

The only pick up line thats ever picked a girl up for me was this right here...

"Hey, I saw you from across the way and had to tell you that you have an absolutely breathtaking hiney!"

j/k j/k

"Hey, how's it going?" Always works for me. OR an ice breaker of some sorts such as, "Hey, you dropped your name tag.*Hand her the sugar packet you sneakily dropped right next to her*"

And a funny one here...
"Hey, you dropped something. (Her-What? or What did I drop?) My jaw."

"how are you doin'?"

:wink:

so, easiest way is to go up to them, take them out for a drink and dinner, have sex with them, then pay them for the evening. easiest relationship out there. just make sure the escort service has some nice looking women. they'll cost more, but they're worth it.

but really, the best way to meet that right someone is to remember that they're just a person. don't trip yourself up by thinking "man, this girl is hot". she's still just a woman. she wants what you want.(maybe not as much sex). But basically, they want someone to enjoy and share life with. keep those things in mind.

i quit trying... out of pure lazyness :shock: meh i'm cool with my lazyness...

I think you meant...

How U doin'?

I created a Monster topic...Woo-Hoo!....This was Hella entertaining people...Thanks for ALL the input and advice....Bring On Some MORE!!

i've noticed that some chicks take it as a compliment when ya grab/slap their asses. Now here's the trick to finding out. Find a cute girl who looks good but fairly normalish/cutsyish. Go up to her. Turn to her friend. Slap/grab that girl's ___. The normal girls always have sex starved friends. They love that ____.

I like me women like I like my coffee.


...Ground up and in the freezer.

I like me women like I like my coffee.

...Ground up and in the freezer.

HAHAHA! So awesome... At first I thought you were gonna say the Chris Rock version. I like my women like I like my coffee. Puerto Rican.

here's my fav pic up line.

ask her: hey did u jus rob a bakery?

she'll say: no, why?

u say: cuz it looks like u stuffed all the cakes in ur pants.

usually works cuz its not really offensive. even the goodie goodie gurls will chuckle at this. .....then u in there like swimwear.

I like my women like my coffee.

Hot, Bitter and a lil nutty.

no wonder u ppl r talking about getting game and not actually gettin any :rofl:

i think i said this before and i will say it again....u ppl that continue to complain about girls wanting money or getting cheated on then im guessing u go for goldiggin hoes

sup with that? i paid everything for my ex bf (food, movies, games, xbox, clothes, whatever) cos he was dirt poor and not once i complained like u ppl do :)

money is just money if u spend it on whom u love it shouldn't matter
and if it does matter that means the relationship yr in is not worth it

you seem bitter and a litle nutty.... :lol:

bitter yes i've had a couple bad experiences

nutty as in crazy yes maybe that too :P we all r

bitter yes i've had a couple bad experiences

nutty as in crazy yes maybe that too :P we all r

2 out of 3 so far. :eyebrow:

u can think what u wish :silly:

^^^
She says she's bitter, she says she's crazy, but what she doesn't tell you is that she's good people (unless she meant stab you in the neck with a pen crazy, then I'd have to reevaluate :P)

just go up to girls and say "hi, how are you?" and look them in the eye. Just talk to them just the way you'd like them to talk to you. Be courteous, but don't be overly nice. Remember, girls are regular people trying to get some honey too. Be confident and genuine and you'll get plenty of girls.

just go up to girls and say "hi, how are you?" and look them in the eye. Just talk to them just the way you'd like them to talk to you. Be courteous, but don't be overly nice. Remember, girls are regular people trying to get some honey too. Be confident and genuine and you'll get plenty of girls.

Well said!

u can think what u wish :silly:

Please be my Suga-MaMa??? :love: :bow:

well, i haven't seen anyone post an answer to the root of his problem. first and foremost, you need to know what you are looking for in a woman. you need to decide how nice her body has to look to you. how pretty her face needs to be for you. how smart she needs to be? what kind of humor does she need to find funny? does she have the passion you are looking for? how deeply does she need to care for the important things in her life? is she as into the physical part of the relationship as you?......

there are more than that, but you need to know exactly what you're looking for and you need to know what ways you are willing to compromise on those criteria.

If you don't know what you are after, no pick up line in the world is going to help you because it doesn't take a woman long to figure out that you have no idea what you're looking for. not a very appealing situation for her. so, she will want to leave. I'm not saying you can't change your mind, but you have to start with something. It may take a while and a few girlfriends to figure out exactly what it is you want, but that's the nature of the beast.

once you know what you want from a relationship it is easier to be confident. and breaking up isn't as tough either if you can reason it out and figure out where the problem lies. Little indicators like being ambivalent while choosing dinner or a movie are clues to her that you are not that confident. Always have a choice made up in your mind. don't say "I don't care, whatever you want." She wants you to decide and have an opinion.

To know what you want, you need to know what she wants, and why. Women are looking for a rock of a man that stands in the water against the current. Not a push-over. They want someone that will take a stand and knows what he wants despite the hardships that may follow. They want someone dependable, reliable, exciting, and spontaneous. Someone that knows how to romance her when she's off her game and makes her feel like the most important person in the world. Someone that will help her through tough times and make her smile in spite of all of her, and your, woes. She needs to know you care, not just at special times, but at random times. just sending a box of chocolates or flowers to her work often does the trick.

Please note that those are general guidelines and don't apply to every woman.

^ aww... somebody took the post serious again... dammit.

STOP RUINING CHRISTMAS!

lol

To know what you, want you need to know what she wants, and why. Women are looking for a rock of a man that stands in the water against the current. Not a push-over. They want someone that will take a stand and knows what he wants despite the hardships that may follow. They want someone dependable, reliable, exciting, and spontaneous. Someone that knows how to romance her when she's off her game and makes her feel like the most important person in the world. Someone that will help her through tough times and make her smile in spite of all of her, and your, woes. She needs to know you care, not just at special times, but at random times. just sending a box of chocolates or flowers to her work often does the trick.


wow....i need to sit down :shock:
congratulations xlr8tC for your perceptiveness
i am positive you had/have/will have a very strong love life
now if you could put this as a sticky thread all over the forum i'm sure some of these other guys will get luckier

(p.s. i rarely give out compliments)

u can think what u wish :silly:

Please be my Suga-MaMa??? :love: :bow:

please grab a ticket and take a seat

:rofl::rofl::rofl: just playing :P

just go up to girls and say "hi, how are you?" and look them in the eye. Just talk to them just the way you'd like them to talk to you. Be courteous, but don't be overly nice. Remember, girls are regular people trying to get some honey too. Be confident and genuine and you'll get plenty of girls.

:wink:

wow....i need to sit down :shock:
congratulations xlr8tC for your perceptiveness
i am positive you had/have/will have a very strong love life
now if you could put this as a sticky thread all over the forum i'm sure some of these other guys will get luckier

(p.s. i rarely give out compliments)


well, thank you. I appreciate the compliment.

:yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: :yawn: all that Dr. Phil crap had me gone for a sec.

Also, be careful with random flowers or chocolates. Some women may think you're covering up for something you did even if they didn't know about it. Say for an example...You "stay late at work to finish your project." You send her flowers the next day because you feel guilty about staying at work late and not making it home in time for dinner, and you want to make amends for it. She'll be like...hmm....The flowers are nice. How thoughtful. I wonder why he thought he had to send these to me. Was he REALLY working on that project or was he with someone else?


Sometimes, some women take things out of context and try to tear you up. Just be sure to provide an ample reason for the flowers or chocolates on the card you send with them.

Sometimes, some women take things out of context and try to tear you up. Just be sure to provide an ample reason for the flowers or chocolates on the card you send with them.

where r my flowers n chocolates!?! :rofl:

mailing address and preferred package...

and u better extensively write the reason behind such a kind gesture :nope: or u'll be in deep $hit :lol:

hahaha...I'll send you the box of chocolates that I have sitting right here with the nast stuff in it. I already ate all the good stuff.

since you are san diego listen to tom leykis. he is on the radio from 3-7 and today at 5 he does a thing called leykis 101 which will teach you how to get laid for less money. you can even stream him on your computer if you are not in your car.

www.blowmeuptom.com

basically, you need to be man and treat girls like crap. the worse you treat them the more they will like you. sounds odd, but it is true. i don't mean hitting them or anything, just with your attitude. since you don't have confidence you are lost and will have a very hard time picking up girls. you sound desperate and girls will sense that and be turned off. as stated first, LISTEN to tom leykis.

well, i haven't seen anyone post an answer to the root of his problem. first and foremost, you need to know what you are looking for in a woman. you need to decide how nice her body has to look to you. how pretty her face needs to be for you. how smart she needs to be? what kind of humor does she need to find funny? does she have the passion you are looking for? how deeply does she need to care for the important things in her life? is she as into the physical part of the relationship as you?......

there are more than that, but you need to know exactly what you're looking for and you need to know what ways you are willing to compromise on those criteria.

If you don't know what you are after, no pick up line in the world is going to help you because it doesn't take a woman long to figure out that you have no idea what you're looking for. not a very appealing situation for her. so, she will want to leave. I'm not saying you can't change your mind, but you have to start with something. It may take a while and a few girlfriends to figure out exactly what it is you want, but that's the nature of the beast.

once you know what you want from a relationship it is easier to be confident. and breaking up isn't as tough either if you can reason it out and figure out where the problem lies. Little indicators like being ambivalent while choosing dinner or a movie are clues to her that you are not that confident. Always have a choice made up in your mind. don't say "I don't care, whatever you want." She wants you to decide and have an opinion.

To know what you want, you need to know what she wants, and why. Women are looking for a rock of a man that stands in the water against the current. Not a push-over. They want someone that will take a stand and knows what he wants despite the hardships that may follow. They want someone dependable, reliable, exciting, and spontaneous. Someone that knows how to romance her when she's off her game and makes her feel like the most important person in the world. Someone that will help her through tough times and make her smile in spite of all of her, and your, woes. She needs to know you care, not just at special times, but at random times. just sending a box of chocolates or flowers to her work often does the trick.

Please note that those are general guidelines and don't apply to every woman.

That was Hella Deep Stuff YO!...Thanks

Well, well I was ok..cant believe I am gonna spill my guts out But I was a late bloomer first off, never had a Father in my life to teach me the ropes about dating and getting a girl...I basically had to figure stuff out on my own!...I could of gotten laid "a lot"...I was nervous and didnt know what to do so I wussed out!!....and now I cant believe I wussed out!...Anyways I been "denied" and "laughed at"...a lot and cuz of this I have a "low self-esteem" and I dont think I am attractive becuz no girls come up and talk to me or even look my way!..really shy when it comes to girls too!...
Thats my problem...I am a wussy boy...lol...
I just want to experience being in a reltionship...
Thats all I ask!!...

u r SUCH a bull$itter :rofl: :P

ah just be real, and keep the smile going. It can be infectious. And be a friend, not just a "partner".
This past week while down south on vacation, when i surprised my wife on our 20th anniv with a renewal of our vows, at sunrise, on a beach in FL......... she returned that smile, and the eyes were sparkling just like they did 2 decades ago. Moments like that are worth every up & down that goes with a relationship.

Now if she happens to read this..... maybe she'll get all sappy again and let me take her TC tomorrow...... whooo hooo

eharmony.com

update to earlier post: i do get to take the TC today, so all the romance really works... uh what's that honey? Oh, it needs gas?

See, like I always say: it's about give and take.... i give her a full tank of gas, and i get to take the car for the day.... that's how you make it 20 yrs and counting...

I think the most important thing you can do before you EVEN APPROACH a woman is accept yourself for who you are. Look yourself in the mirror and say "I like who I am." Now don't overdo it and become infatuated with yourself but you have to work on liking yourself before anyone will like you. And the most important thing which has been repeated on here over and over again is "Be yourself". That's what makes it easy, you'r enot trying to hide behind some facade.

Next, remind yourself that you are "interviewing" the other person just like they are "interviewing" you. If they can't accept you for who you are, or they are too shallow or materialistic... Then they aren't worth dating anyway. Drop them and go on to the next chick. Don't try forever going after the same girl who just might be leading you on. It just leads to heartache. Remember there are millions of women out there, and everyone is different in some way.

Also remember that NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has some flaw... it may not be physical but it could be psychogical... So keep that in mind too when you see that stunning beauty that seems out of reach because you think you're "out of her league" or your "not good looking enough".

I hope I helped you somewhat. Plus once you actually find a girlfriend that sticks around, sooner or later you'll be missing the single life... I know I am. :P

Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does... 8)

Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe)

:shock: hey it's not very nice of you to give out our sectrets!!! wtf :rofl:

:shock: hey it's not very nice of you to give out our sectrets!!! wtf :rofl:

Hahaha :wink: I have you all figured out! NOT really we men are still many many years away from unlocking the code to the woman psyche... :question:

yes u are
but yr def. on the rite track :clap:

delete this post

this crap about "I dont think I am attractive becuz no girls come up and talk to me or even look my way!" it's jus that, crap! You can't use that excuse cause i def know some smokin hot girls with some quazimoto looking guys. Dood if Brad Pitt was really shy and didn't have an out going personailty then he wouldn't get chicks. You ever meet a smokin hot girl, then she starts to talk and is all shy or really emo, they're soooo annoying, it def doesn't make me want to talk to them. And girls probably do throw you a stare, but it seems like your too scared to look up and see. It's nice to look at life with your eyes open and your head up. God i sound like a halmark card.

Dood if Brad Pitt was really shy and didn't have an out going personailty then he wouldn't get chicks.


Sure u can make yrself believe that :silly:

Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does... 8)

I like this advice...But everytime I am nice and stuff...Girls think I am stalking them or want more!...I dunno what to do...I aint the "playa" type or a "a-hole" type...so I dunno...haha...Cool to see different opinions n junk!...glad I made this topic!

Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does... 8)

I like this advice...But everytime I am nice and stuff...Girls think I am stalking them or want more!...I dunno what to do...I aint the "playa" type or a "a-hole" type...so I dunno...haha...Cool to see different opinions n junk!...glad I made this topic!

keep in mind, nice guys finish last.

take some time and review this information. it will get you on the right track of meeting and taking out girls to find that true girl you are looking for. girls are really simple once you know how they think since most of them think like guys.

http://www.tenetsofleykis.com/

be comfortable around her, find something both like and have a good conversation, be confident, dont look at other girls, eye contact, good hygiene is a plus, dont fart or burp until you know she feels comfortable around you doing that stuff, dont be too shy, plan dates, be yourself when having a convo and just let it flow.....dont think too much and it will be alrite, just have fun :silly:


nice guys finish last story or w/e>>http://www.angelfire.com/ab8/ghols2/

Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does... 8)

I like this advice...But everytime I am nice and stuff...Girls think I am stalking them or want more!...I dunno what to do...I aint the "playa" type or a "a-hole" type...so I dunno...haha...Cool to see different opinions n junk!...glad I made this topic!

Psh... that's all in your head. First of all, don't beat around the bush. Talk to them first of course but don't drag it out forever. Confidence is a must here. Just get a feel for what they like, their interests, their personality. Find something you have in common (if anything) and ask them to accompany you to a place that has to do with her interest and personality. If she seems like the fun and games type, try go-karts or arcade, something like that. Remember not all girls are the dinner and a movie type. Try to be more than ordinary. Let your personality show don't try to seem like you're hiding something or you're a fake.

Also PLEASE, PLEASE remember that some girls are just plain old beeatches. If you like this girl but she won't even give you the time of day.... Think to yourself: "Do I really see myself in a relationship with this person?"... of course not. Don't let girls like that hurt your self-esteem. Just move on.