i just found out the other day my good friend was struck by a train and killed. the worst part is everyone thinks it was suicide. i just dont know what to think. should i give him the benefit of the doubt?

anybody have any good advice. and please be serious.

-matt

 

I would think it's pretty hard to be accidentally hit by a train unless you're drunk or high or something. I don't know what his personality was like or if it would ever be something he could have considered, but it just seems like a difficult thing to randomly happen.

 

Sorry to hear that. I am sure it was some sort of accident and not suicide. He could of been messing around, and just something happened and he couldnt get out of the way. Panic and all that. you know?. People think that trains are slow, and just really dumb stuff happens..

Sorry for your loss.

 

This is a real hard thing to deal with and so for that, I am sorry. I really don't think you'll ever know for sure but to be honest it seems a little suspicious to be hit by a train and not notice it coming... if he was on foot (I'm not sure if he was on foot or in a car). If he was in a car I think it would be a lot more difficult to notice a train on an non-regulated crossing. I really can't tell you what to think but I am very sorry. In my prayers...

 

no car and yes i see your point.... he was alone at 6pm with no wallet or cell phone. sounds like suicide to me . but a hate to say that. its killing me inside. sorry if that sounds emo

 

Well it's not really emo when someone close to you dies and you're pretty messed up inside. That's normal.

It would be emo if you "felt" like that and had no reason to do so...

Nearly impossible to really tell what happened though. There would need to be some note or other info to really tell what was going on.

 

thats what i think it is.... i will never know what happend. or what would happen if i was a better friend.

 

I wouldn't let the idea "If only I was a better friend" get to you. Some people are really good with hiding their real pain so no one knows about it, and your friend might have done just that. I've done it before too but never followed through with the ideas that were in my head.

Try and think back on the good times you guys had together. If you had made any vows, like you're going to go to a specific school or something, then make them happen.

I too know all too wel what you're going through though. *hug*

 

sry to hear that man. thats awful news. Well i can tell you that one of the senior pastors' son at my church committed suicide. a pastors kid! it was hard for everyone to believe. worst part is he seemed fine up till it happened and nobody could really "know what he was really thinking" for them to help straighten him out.

all im trying to say is you might not ever be able to for sure, and you just have to trust that your friend was your friend and im sure didnt want to hurt you through any of this. again sorry for your loss dude

 

First off, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss.

Now, suicide or not, it's important to know that there's nothing that you did to allow this to happen. Don't think about what could've been.

The sad reality is, some people have inner struggles that they don't allow people to see. If he did have something going on, it's not always easy to tell.

Hang in there, it sucks, but time heals wounds.

 

hey man, i feel your pain.

i had a good friend who died a month ago from a "hit and run". at least that's what the media says. some of us think it might have been suicide. but we really won't know. it's a tough situation to deal with, not knowing if you could have or should have done more. if you could have read the signs or if there were even signs at all. but you know what? it happened. you can't bring your friend back, no matter how hard you try. and the best thing you can do in these situations is to just keep living your life as they would have wanted you to live it. it takes time to really sink in and to get over the shock, but that's life. i am not proud to say that i've dealt with a number of good friends being killed in such accidents, but it really makes you think about what you can do to make the most of your time with those around you. one piece of advice i'd have is to not try to deal with it yourself alone. get together with a group of close friends and get through it together. get some closure with it.

hope that gives you a bit of insight...

stay strong bro.

 

thanks to all

 

QFT!!! even thou time takes its sweet time doing so

 

wow you should copyright that line

 

it still needs work heh

 

Sorry for your lost, dont stress about it. I am pretty sure it was an accident more than suicide..people do crazy things when they are depressed but I cant seem to think why someone would want to get hit by a train rather than jumping off a building or drowning . But in this situation we can never full understand what really happened since we simply werent there. Just pray for your friend.

 

i had a friend kill himself a little over a year ago.
its hard man.
the best thing to do is just keep an eye on all your other friends and always be there for each other.
they say suicide is "contagious" sometime. more so the depression that everyone gets from loosing a friend.

idk about your friend but mine was struggling with some pretty bad depression which he held inside all the time and dealt with pretty well, until one day i guess he just couldnt take it.

we know hes in a better place though because he doesnt have to deal with all those inner problems anymore.