well my girlfriend and I pretty much just broke up. My fault. My fault entirely. She's been in a relationship for the last 5 years of her life, one of that year was with me, and she says she wants to be single for a bit. now I on the other hand was single for 4 years and was with her for one. Problem is that i truly love this girl and out of all the girls i know, she is definitely the most wifie material. The problem is that I'm just whaofully immature. Shes gone through a lot of poop in her life and she grew up much faster then normal. Unfortunately I'm still an immature c@nt and because of that I lost her. The worst part is that rather then improving things I f@$k s@#t up even more by being a stupid a&@ hole and saying stupid s@$t that made me look like a freakin creeper. idk. I just don't know anymore. I want to be with this girl so badly. but i know i need to grow up first. she deserves it. god damnit im such a stupid blind f$@k. I just have to let go and let time take care of everything. i seriously have no idea what I wanna do with myself right now. Its almost like theres nothing. Raw emptyness. It sucks.

sorry for the rant. I just needed someplace to vent and tell someone.

 

If she needs time then let her have some but you cant blame yourself for everything that has gone wrong in your relationship. It takes two to tangle..remember? I have been going out with my girl for 6 years and we have been through some pretty tough stuff..believe me I know exactly how you feel. However if you feel like you need to mature then take some time off then reproach her when you feel comfortable. This is gonna be very hard for you and her to bounce back from but just have some patients if you truly care. The only real solid solution I can offer is to pray to God. Trust that he would be there for you because if you think about it he cares about you a lot more then you could ever imagine and he knows you better than anyone else.

If you need to vent out some more, I am here just PM me

 

You sound like my ex when I ended our 3yr relationship. After I ended it he realized how special I was to him, yada yada yada. Truthfully I enjoy being single, and if your ex has the mindset like me (to know what being single is like again) then she'll want to be single for awhile lol.

Definitely take the time to grow up and improve upon yourself, just don't do it for her sake do it for yours. That's one thing that majorly ____ed me off about my ex, he tried to change for me, not himself.

 

:fap: :fap: :fap:

 

Sounds like the first things we've got to do, is step back and re-evaluate. You don't necessarily need to tell me (us), but think about it.

How, specifically did it start?

What, specifically did you do wrong? Why do you think that it was wrong? Why'd you do it?

Try to take yourself out of the situation, then go from there. Remember not to lose yourself, and that if she's really gone, there will be others.

 

^^well obviously, anyone would feel the same way your ex did..especially after a long relationship. Its like the saying, "you never really know how much you love someone until you lose em." Plus being single can only go so far. It might be a pleasure to you now but its not gonna last.

For his maturity..true that, he has to do it for himself and I think he is well on his way. Suffering yields Perseverance and Perseverance builds Character.

 

well i don't really want to make her life story public. But basically we started about 7 months ago. For a while it seemed like every single day that passed our relationship got better and better. Even for a month after i moved to FL and she stayed in NY our relationship got better and better. then all of a sudden it seemed like everything fell apart. I'll admit i was becoming very possessive i would constantly ask what she was doing and text her constantly, which i realized i was doing and stopped. I think my main issue is that I made her a huge part of my life, maybe too big.

 

Its not really that I never noticed what i had until i lost it. I knew what I had. I loved her. I treated like gold. Even now, even after she said that she wanted to be single, she told me that i treated her like gold and truly made her feel special. Its not like i suddenly realized i loved her when we broke up.

 

shlt happens...

 

Then how were you immature? From the sounds of it, it seems like you were just being caring. If thats exactly how it was then bro you deserve better.

 

the problem was that was too possessive. Pretty much to the point of annoyance.

hmm. shlt does happen. that used to be my favorite saying.

 

well i mean its true, ive been with the same woman for 3 years and thats basically what everything boils down to...

 

So you have just been with her for around a year or so? Before you she had plenty of other bfs correct? Well guess she just wasnt ready to be committed in the first place. Dont take it too the heart bro, plenty of fishes in the sea. You can buy a turbo make you feel better.

 

exactly... dont dwell on the negativity... treat the only girl in your life that wont purposefully leave you to something nice!

 

nah actually i was her second bf.

 

last bf before you lasted 4 years then, you 1? If so then there is the potential foundation behind the problem..

 

what do you mean?

 

shes been with a dude for 4 years then you for 1 year, I wont be surprised if she got back with him but im not trying to get you down. There could be a whole lot other reasons. Your better off without her for now but if ya truly meant to be then you guys will be together in time.

 

Hope things get better for you, hans.

Sometimes it's best to walk away, & never look back.

 

Hans, chin up dude! Sounds like you know what went wrong and it's a leason learned. Try to make things right, but if it don't work, go on with life and give her some space. Showing some maturity might help your cause. Keep your mind on your school and don't let it change your goals. Good luck and hope for the best.