Hi guys...I've been going out with my ex-girlfriend for over 4 years. Last month she broke up with me. I later found out that she broke up with me because of another guy. She was cheating on me for a while and she decided to break it up with me and go on with the other guy. I was so clueless. So in the past month, I have been going through so much pain and suffering. Heart break is ____ed up! I missed hella days at work. I haven't eaten for so long and I lost over 15 lbs.

Currently, i'm doing much better. I found myself a new girl. My current girl is much finer than my ex. Now, I want to know if I should ask for the jewelry that I bought her back. I bought her a daimond ring worth $400+ on our anniversary in Oct '06. I also bought her countless other gold necklaces, rings, bracelets, and earings. My question is:

Is it wrong for me to ask for those items back? Is it hers now?

 

you gave it to her as gifts.... it's her's now... :?

best to take it as a loss and learn from it.

 

yea they are legally hers but ask for them back and put that money into your bank or into your car.

Moral of the story: dont spend money on b!@#hes..

 

I asked my co-workers and they said that I had the right to have them returned...I bought it to represent out love and our time together...now that our love is gone and we are no longer together...I should get it back.

 

I didn't know she was a _____...i wish i knew!

 

Let her keep them. Besides she dida bad thing to you and Karma has a way of evening things out anyway.

 

Why would you want them back? You paid $400 for the ring, and you won't get nearly that much back for it, unless the store lets you return it. Live and learn.

 

Wow weird...only one stupid remark on the thread.

Well...when me and my ex bf broke up I wanted to return the one bracelet he gave me (it was his grand ma's) since I don't like to keep stuff that reminds me of my ex loves.

Some girls rather sell the stuff and others yet keep them and don't think of them as an emotional tie anymore.

Just let her have them, you ahd given it to her because of love correct, so why would you want something that will remind you of it back? And as the guy above said you wouldn't make much $ out of it.

And that requires you to get back into contact with her (which I suppose you don't want to).

With the next gf try to give something that expresses yr love for her without you breaking yr wallet.

I gave my ex bf something I made for around 5$. It was the sentimental/symbolic value that mattered.

Now he kept his i kept mine.

 

The best thing to do, is thing of the gifts as a way of paying her off now. If you ask for them back, she is gonna be around a bit while you work all that ish out. If you let her keep them, shes out of your hair.

 

okay...thanks guys and gals...i guess i'll let her keep them.

 

Welcome to the club! Yeah, I would let her keep them...you dont want that stuff back and besides when she is out with the new guy and he asks...hey thats a nice ring where did you get it from.....

Now if its an engagement ring (like the one I got for my ex) then yeah..take that back like I did....No more engagment...no more ring.....I traded it in for a nice chain and watch for myself

 

yeah you probably shouldn't ask for them back, but I think that she should have returned them without you having to ask. The gifts were supposed to represent your love for her. I don't see how she can wear them and not feel weird. Well that just shows you what kind of girl she is.

 

ask for them pack, but don't expect them back.

 

let her keep all that stuff. For me, I wouldnt.

 

You get engagement rings back when she screws you over. everything else is hers to keep.

However, like said above, she should want to give them back. If she doesn't, then she's a, well I can't get into that right now, I'd rather not get banned. But you can bet I was calling her some rather nasty names for you in my head.

 

Word C!!!! Good points.

It's already been said and I'm sure you've made your decision, but Imma give my opinion anywhoo....

Legally, whatever you gave her are hers now. Because, as already said, they were gifts.

But if it was an engagement ring then back the moral rule book you deserve it back. If the girl breaks off the engagement she should give the the ring back. If the guy breaks off the engagement then she gets to keep it. Now this is just the way it should work but it's not the "law".

When it all oils down to it....Do you want that fustration and hassle, that will go along with getting the stuff back. My guess, is she won't give them up easy, so let it go. She'll probably come crawling back to you because this new guy porobably isn't half the bf you were to her. Be free of her negative energy and get on witht the new chic. I just hope this isn't the rebound chic....????....????

Oh and personally I'd get give them back, but then personally I wouldn't cheat.But even if/when we broke up on normal terms, I'd still give it back.

 

Agreed 100%!

 

Oh and toanswer your question. It's not wrong to ask for the items back, but regardless you're not entitled to the items any longer. So it's kinda like a mix of the poll answers.

 

" I ain't saying she's a gold digger, but she ain't messing with no broke....scion driver" hahaha

 

You could always slash her tires... no... don't do that. It's bad "Car Karma" anyways. Do you have any "home movies" you could use as leverage? The same kinda thing happened to me, except I walked in on her and her new found love. I wanted to throw him through the wall, and her too of course. I feel for you man! The best payback is to act like it didn't hurt you at all and to move on. If she sees that you're happy without her and you don't need her anymore, then that's better than getting the money back IMO.