When I first met my bestfriend I quickly learned that she did crystal meth. She only did it maybe once every 3 months and would always assure me she was not addicted, she said it was not in her personality ect... well now about a year and a half later she does it about twice a week. I am really worried about her. I am afraid to say anything because I am sure it will break apart our friendship but at the same time our friendship has been crumbling because she gets mad at every little thing her fuse has gotten so short latly and I think it's because of the meth. I have no clue what to do.

 

meth will ruin your life, and if you care about them you will do anything and everything to have them stop. from being in a law enforcement backround i have seen what meth does. Unfortuantly she may hate you for interveening, but atleast she will be alive, not to be blunt but meth overdoses are very very common, and if you dont want her to die interveen.
I would have her taken to rehab, but in reality she needs to want to help herself, and one thing about meth is you loose perspective on reality, so she may not even know what is going on........
does her family know?


sorry to hear about this

 

I want to tell our boss cause he is like a dad to us but like I said I am terrified of loosing her as a friend

 

You remember the time you were a little kid, and you wanted to do something that was really stupid, but your parents wouldn't let you?

If you had good parents, it probably happened often. . . but I bet you thank them for it now. The fact is, it's hard for parents to do that, because we all naturally want to spoil our kids. . . nobody wants to feel like an a hole. . . and that's usually how a bad parent is created.

Do you remember how you used to get mad at your parents, even question your relationship with them? There's a reason why I'm making this huge analogy. . .

With friends, it can be the same thing. . . you can be peachy keen all the time, but the truth of the matter is that you can be hurting them in the long run. Failing to act in opposition is to condone an action. It's easy to please the crowd. . . what's hard is giving the crowd the medicine it needs.

So what kind of friend are you? Are the kind who puts your friends' well being above the integrity of the friendship? Or you just a friend to "hang out" with?

If you choose to help your friend, a word of caution. If you have trouble managing your own life, I recommend that you mind your own business, as it is common to end up doing more harm than good, if you don't know EXACTLY what you are doing. It isn't your responsibility to save all your friends. . .

However if you are capable, then it means you have the opportunity to help them. . . it's your choice which path you wish to take. But should you choose the path less taken, you'll be flushing your short term friendship down the drain, and quite possibly the long term as well. Your friend may hate you forever. . . but if that is the price of saving your friend, then it is worth considering.

But again, the most common mistake good people make, is to try to help without knowing HOW to help. Again, if you don't know EXACTLY what you are doing, there is a fairly high chance you will do some damage, rather than good. At that point, you'll just be gambling.

 

^^^ true that,
you need to look at how close of a freind she is. it is a gamble......i would contact a substance abuse organization and see what the options are.

 

She is one of the few people in my life I actually consider a real friend we have been through everything together this is not just a little aquantince

 

all i can say is a friend is there to tell you that you have a booger hanging off your nose or to tell you that you're being a bonehead for doing messed up sh*t like crytal meth. be a friend to her and follow your intuition, its most likely telling you that you should intervene in some way.

conisder this, you dont want to risk your friendship but what if she ruins her life, or worse OD's? there's nothing to hold on to then. its up to you, good luck to you and continue to pray for your friend.

 

If the friendship is truely mutual.. then intervene.. that crap will indeed ruin her life, and could pull you into it as well (not saying you'll do it).. Tell her that you want to get her help, tell her from the outside looking in you see things she may not see and you want to get her help so that you can continue to be friends and grow together.

 

If you don't do something, you will loose a friend for sure....to drugs and potentially death. If you do something, loose that friend until they straighten out and then regain that friend, you both win.

 

IMO a true friend wont just sit there and watch another friend fall apart, especially in this situation. I think you should do everything in your power you can to help her.

Sure she may hate you in the beginning but once she is able to get a grip on reality she will thank you. I have been through this with a few friends of mine many years ago. A couple of them are glad to this day I and some others interveened and helped them. Of course there is 1 or 2 whom still hate me for even attemptiong to help them.

Truth is if trully care about her and she is more family than a friend I would talk to NA associations/rehabs and try to find multiple ways to help her out. If she is the same age roughly as you are that is a very young age to end your life or end up in life I should say.

I wish you the best of luck, she will thank you someday..

 

bump for that.......

addiction is a disease and should be treated as such, its not something that will go away on its own.

 

you need to get her help asap

 

Ask her if she knows what is in meth. There is some pretty nasty ingredients in that stuff. Also, think of the guilt you would have if she did OD and you had known all along that she was doing it. You could have saved her but didn't. It is your duty to help get her straight. Even if she hates you for it, you probably saved her life.

 

What do y'all think the best way is to break the news

 

i went on a meth bust about 6 years ago, these fools were cooking/cutting it with battery acid, fertilizer and crystalized drano, not to mention gasoline and butane, ive seen people cut it with 409, bleach and pretty much whatever you clean you toilet goes into meth.

I would tell her the truth....how you feel, what you know will eventually happen and tell her you will help her get clean.
but before you do that, you need to do your research on how meth users get clean.

 

the worst thing i saw was this family was running a methlab in thier kids closet, thier was so much run off chemically it took 4 years to get the acre theyre home was on cleaned up, not to mention they were tossing the run off in their back yard where the kids played........

meth ruins pretty much anything that comes in contact.....

 

i would do whatever I could to help a friend/family member in a situation like this. Speaking from some experience ( not with meth though ), an addict will not always take the hand given; so all you can do is put your best heartfelt effort forward. I would not go in "blindly"; i'd find out what services are there for treatment and support; and look at your "role" in this as guiding them towards getting better, and being there for them as needed throughout this process. Leave the treatment to the pros; but know that there is plenty for a friend to do to help pick up the pieces, and that this road could take a long time to travel and is not always successful at first... good luck...

 

time to intervene..better for her to hate you then for you to live with the guilt if she dies. you'd be saving her life and if you did care about her, u'd care to save her life rather then jus sit back and watch her self destruct. but like they said up there, make sure you know how ur gonna do it..dont take too long though

 

Ding ding ding! Absolutely correct.

I don't like how everyone is jumping on the bandwagon that you should just go rat your friend out. . . it goes back to my previous (long) post.

. . . keep in mind that a majority of people who go to rehab, relapse more than once, and end up back in rehab. . . again and again.

Don't be in such a hurry to make yourself feel better about yourself by trying to do the right thing. That's how you cause more harm than good.

If you choose to help your friend, think slowly and think clearly about your actions and HOW they will actually help your friend. Remember, the goal isn't to "do the right thing." The goal is to help your friend. . . and the answers aren't always clear.

. . . but on advice on what helps and what doesn't: my experience has taught me that the human will is VERY strong. When motivated enough, people are capable of doing incredible things against incredible odds. The solution? Find motivation for your friend. If you can motivate them (under their own interests and not yours) to stop abusing, they will. But without a reason to quit (that your friend will believe in), he/she won't. You may get them to think twice, but in the long run, they'll just give up and relapse. . . and that's the problem with rehab.

It is impossible to change a person. . . believe me. Change only comes from within, and when your friend is good and ready, he/she will do the changing his/herself. All you can do is speed up the process by helping them to reflect upon themselves. I dunno if that makes any sense to you or not. . .

 

I completely agree ^^ with his statement. I couldnt have said better. You need to get a few others to help you. Your friend needs positive interactions and needs to stay away from the people who are helping to drag him/her down. I would do as much research as possible prior to giving her the news your gonna help her.

Like said above DO NOT go at the blind folded it will only frustrate you because you dont know how to help her but know that you want to... As any rehab will tell you ultimately you can make her change or clean up she/he has to want this for themself.

Know that it will be an uphill battle and at times you will want to give up on your friend (you'll feel like its hopeless) but don't quit on them, they do need you <-- personal experience..