this may sound stupid cuz i'm only 16 but please listens folks.
i'm sure some of u remember me sayin in the ^<> game that i wanted my gf back. well, we had been dating for about a month after knowing each other from church for years now. we go to different schools but we kept in touch everyday and all that good stuff. and after a month or so passes by i get a text message after school one day saying "hey we need to talk. i really hate to do this but i don't like you as a boyfriend anymore, i kinda like someone else but i still want us to be friends". and there was a lil more than that but it's not important.
so a conversation a couple of days ago led to us talkin bout when we were dating. (now keep in mind i still like this girl) and after some talking she was like wow i didn't realize u liked me that much. she knows that i still like her and all and i asked her if there was any possibility that we might ever get back together cuz we'd been apart for some time now and she still hadn't started datin whoever it was she liked. she told me it was a possibility, then she told me who she liked. and it's this guy from our church who is already dating someone and he's is crazy about her. so i told my x this and she was like well they can't date forever ya know.
what do i do? i like this girl much many bunches (hmm, grammar lessons anyone) and even tho she knows just how much i really like her and thinks its sweet and all that stuff she continues to like this guy who already has a gf. the guys she likes is a good friend of mine who knows that me and this girl used to date. however i don't know if he knows that he's the reason that we don't date now.
do i talk to him and ask him to let her know that he just doesn't feel the same way and tell her that he's in a serious relationship now? or does anyone have a better idea?

i know this was long but thank you to whoever reads this all the way through.

 

The only thing i can say on this topic is that you cant change people. If she likes this guy more than you- you should let her go. Would you really want her after she told you she likes somebody else more. Do what you want , but don't make a fool of your self - you have to look at yourself in the mirror each morning.

 

and all i can say is dude, your 16, don't waste time getting super duper involved with girls like your going to spend the rest of your life with them starting now because unless you knock one up, your not going to be together very long.

your in high school, kids are stupid and obsessed with popularity and reputations, getting their licenses. then they go to college, and you probably will go to separate colleges, meet somebody else etc.

don't try and start a long commited relationship until you are atleast in college. until then, play the field, meet people, hang out, find out what you do and don't like about different girls to develop a type preference. don't worry about dating in high school, your not looking for love, you just have raging hormones trying to get you laid. don't deny it, i was there just a few short years ago.

 

Enjoy ******* everyone else....

 

 

look, the issue is in plain view; your too good of friends. she likes you too much to LIKE you. trust me, if she goes back to you your relationship is going to be HELLA crazy. careful what you wish for, i speak from experience. just because you like her, and she lies you, that getting together will make anything but pain. dont do it. let her go and be for her when she needs you.

 

you drive a scion tc, you can have any woman you want, tell her to hit the bricks.

 

Man dont get to devoited in making a relationship out of you and here right away. If she is cool with you two being friends just get over you desire to make it personal and who knows when you to get older and more expirenced in the dating world you both might end up laughing about the fact that watied so long to date each other.

If you get into the mentality that you are supposed to be with her it will just freak her out and it will ruin you friendship.

 

This is a simple point of fact: WOMEN WANT WHAT THEY CAN'T HAVE.

If you want her back, give her her space. You say you "keep in touch everyday". Stop calling her every day, and don't answer every single time she calls you.

As long as she considers you hers if she wants you, she'll never want you, so start giving off the impression that you aren't that easy. Start seeing other girls immedietly.

 

Perfect, almost always something you want really bad always isn't as good as you'd hope. I seen and experienced this time and time again, though I would stay friends with her because eventually shes going to need some sexual relief and oh wait there you are in perfect position.

 

You are too young to be in a serious relationship. I wasted my junior and senior year with a girl just to see it end when we went to separate colleges (anyone that is going to try to make that work... don't). Just enjoy getting into trouble with the guys and don't pay too much attention to the ladies, you'll get 10x more tail that way. Accomplish your goals then think about a serious relationship.

 

dude.. if your friends to begin with.. thats all youll ever be

 

Do you really want to be second choice? Do you enjoy being the one she goes to because the one she really wants isn't available? At the moment, you are nothing more than a convenience.
It's time to move along. I wouldn't even consider a friendship with the girl. If she were truly a friend, then she wouldn't keep you dangling like that. She would have made things very clear, whether she were interested or not. It sounds to me like you have a selfish girl on your hands, who couldn't give a rat's @$$ how you feel as long as she gets what she wants, and that amounts to nothing but trouble.
My advice... Forget the idea of being involved in a serious relationship at 16, with this girl, or any other. If it makes you feel better, go bang one of her friends.

 

Bail! Bail out NOW - RIGHT NOW DAMMIT!

Everything everyone has said above is true.

1. you're 16
2. If she knows you're always available - she wants you even less.
3. You're stuck in "the friend zone" - very few men ever escape the friend zone. It's kind of like a black hole.
4. You're being a doormat - stop.
5. She's TOLD you she wants someone else. When a girl TELLS you that - she's saying "I DON'T like you - I like someone else". Unless she's playing mind games, in which case you should drop her anyways cause life is too short.

 

that is the most false thing I've read in a while

I am NEVER dating someone who is not my friend first. Never.

 

So far only boyz replied....hence most of the stuff here is worthless to help yr case (sorry guys not bashing but u don't know what she is thinking, neither do I but I can relate more).

1. You are young, I agree with looking around for other possible gfs.
2. I think that if you really CARE (not in the sense of "uh yeah i wanna do her" but as in you genuily care for her happyness and well-being) you must be there for her like you always have been. Forget about not people saying to run away. WHY would you run away if you have an established friendship????
3. If she's a smart one she will appreciate all yr support and will value as a very good friend and that my friend in the long run is way more precious than having dated for a month or so.

[Disclaimer* I speak of personal experience however, I do not know young american chicks]

 

Ive been with my girl since High School for almost 7 years now...

take my advice... have fun now before you get yourself in a commited relationship.

 

Hey there is plenty more fish in the sea, dont give your hopes up on just one girl, just go with the flow and im sure theres plenty of girls that will be more intresting and you can learn from this expierence, you definetly do not want to get in the middle of those two because you could possibly end up causing problems that dont need to be caused and if you like her enough than just be there for her as a friend. Its best to be friends than nothing at all. You both are young and have so much to discover. Good look with everything and keep your head up. Hey go buy something for your TC it will make you feel better lol well thats what i do,

 

i remember when my brother explained the birds and the bees to me...he said, women are like cars, you don't want to start driving a nice sports car right away because you'll mess it up and won't know how to handle it, you need to drive a few dodge neons before you get the hang of things...

my advice is if you treat a woman like dirt, she sticks to you like mud...lol, jk claudia don't hit me!

but seriously, there are so many people in the world and so many more important things in life to waste it revolved around some girl who is just treating you as a friend of convience.

 

Hey now, theres alot of good girls in this world that are nothing like neons lol that is a good one tho. Youlll find a good girl and she will find you