i am trying to tap into the gear selection lights on the auto xA to wire up my gf cathodes. i saw a thread that said what part of the blue connector was what. can anyone link me or tell me what the right thing is

 

i found the thread. but it seems the car they did it on was an 04. she has an 06. i dont see a blue connector. does anyone know if it changed color and/or what is pow/grd