before i begin, let me say my girlfriend is 26 weeks pregnant with our daughter.


so i go to work this morning in this crappy weather we're having in Philly. drag my feet like i had cement blocks on them toward my cubicle and plop into my chair. i texted my gf to say hi and what not. she texts me back with a nice message and saying how much she misses me..

so a later my dumbaxx decides to go outside to get some lunch into the crappy weather. the day isn't so bad i tell myself. Phillies World Series win is simply delayed, work isn't going too bad today, and gf is happy and reported that she is feeling fine.

while walking back to my work with my lunch, getting rained on and whipped around by the wind, all while mumbling to myself for being so dumb to venture outside, i get a text from her saying she doesn't wanna see me anymore and not to call, text, or e-mail.

wtf.


i text her asking what's wrong. no reply. i try calling her. no answer.

i get back to my desk and decide to check my e-mail. an e-mail from her (sent while i was out getting lunch) is in my inbox. basically it says that i only uploaded some of the pictures on my facebook that she sent me. to top it off, she says one particular pic that she liked wasn't uploaded on my facebook and it really ticked her off. then she writes are you embarrassed of me. i never wanna see you again, etc etc.

whoa now.

i uploaded the pics that i liked (which she told me was fine) and this included the one particular one she liked. this all happened while she was next me when i was over at her place this past Saturday!! but to my surprise, when i logged into my facebook to check, 2 of the pictures i uploaded were not there...one of them being the particular one she loved so much.

she finally returns my call and we get to talking. she starts saying you don't care enough about us to post the pics, it took you forever to post them (i'd say it took 2 weeks before i got around to it), why didn't you upload that one picture, i dont' wanna take pictures with you again. she even said that it ticked her off so much that she deleted a bunch of pics of us from her facebook except a few.

umm...ok.

from the moment i found out why she was mad, i'm thinking why is she overreacting like this. i uploaded the pics when i was over her apartment. she even saw me do it (which she claims she doesn't really recall now). how is it my fault if some of the pictures are not there?!?!?!?! i didn't go and delete them.

i tried to explain maybe it didn't upload correctly. anyway, she wasn't buying it and told me we need to not see each other for awhile. i'm all heated i had to go facilitate a status meeting in 5 minutes for work!

what a crappy day...sorry i needed to vent. sometimes i wonder how i have so much patience (i keep telling myself she's pregnant) and how i put up with all the crap my gf gives me sometimes. it's like i have to watch my every move and wonder if i did things right or will it ____ her off type crap.

 

Dude I am not sure what age you are but remember SHE IS PREGNANT! I hope things work out for you.


John

 

i'm almost 27 and yes i understand that she is pregnant and i'm there to support her.

but claiming to not have uploaded pictures on facebook (when i did, i don't know how she doesn't remember althought i have read pregnant women suffer from minor memory lose) and then getting sooo ticked off at me about it to the point where she doesn't wanna talk or see me and then say we need time apart?

i mean, do other guys go through this type of stuff with their pregnant gf's or wives?

 

Maybe its some kinda crazy pregnancy mood swings? Gl.

 

First of yeah, she pregnant! second women are crazy and insecure. My current girl gets mad when I dont do pics on myspace an that i dont comment her.. not as mad as urs, but upset..

Give her a day and keep in mind you always have to remind her how much you care for her, wither it is just saying you miss her, your thinking of her, or getting her fav flower or dinner.. you get the idea..

second off.. women are nuts.

Good luck

 

Wow, this is a pretty dumb reason to get into a fight.

And to be honest, women use prgnancy sometimes as an excuse to act crazy. I remember being jealous and emotional all the time but seriously, this is something else all together.

 

i mean last resort if need to, talk to a doctor. my pregnant best friend did have a slight bad memory here and there. doctors can usually help you better. of course others w/ experience can too.

good luck!

 

she is so quick to anger sometimes. her being an only child, i feel like she's very selfish sometimes. she's even told me she wants all my attention and will get upset if i decide to hang with my boys saying why don't you spend time with me (i spend all my freetime w/ her and make plans around her schedule). but it seems to be ok for her to go hang out with her gf's. she even gets upset if i try to help my 2 younger brothers financially. it's not a lot of money, maybe i like $20 here and there for gas or food, but it's very rare because they hardly ever ask me.

during a really rough part of our relationship couple months back (during her pregnancy), she wanted time apart, cancelled our weekend plans, and to meet up on the following monday. so at last minute i decided to help my cousin move into his freshman dorm in NYC. while i was up there i met up w/ some friends and came back home the same day. later when i meet w/ my gf. she asks what i did over the weekend and i tell her. she gets upset and says you were planning that, why didn't you tell me, tell me your plans next time, etc.

the reason i didn't tell her was because she didn't want any communication between us at the time. then she turns on me and says well i went to AC a couple times in the past weeks and never told you about it.

so then i asked why didn't you tell me. she says she didn't have to. so we got into this huge argument with me saying how can you expect me to tell you everything i do when you don't do the same in return.

enough from me for now...need to get back to work.

 

Tell her you failed your mindreading class and the next time she wishes you would do something, how about asking?

 

Oh, and concerning your last post...

Good luck. You have an extremely controlling gf there. This will end in 2 ways: either you end your individual life (friends and what looks like your family as well) and live a life that is revolved completely around hers

or

it will end badly. very badly.

But, this is just from what I have seen in my personal experience and what you have said. I'm sure there are other factors not mentioned and I do hope this turns out for the best for you. Again, good luck.

 

wow....i don't know wat to say!!

 

if she was like this before...WHAT DID U GET URSELF INTO!?!? but if there were no signs of this before her pregnancy, then it IS just that. my friend is going through the same, a psychologist told him she's not changing feelings, she's just pregnant. Sry bout that though.

 

ooooh boy... well... hmm.

If you were NOT expecting a child, I'd say to run like hell.

But since you are, you're going to have to accept the fact that you are FOREVER tied to this person, unless you do something uncharacteristically crappy.

Regarding the girl

1) You need to establish boundaries and stand up for yourself... if you haven't done so already. You need to make it clear that you love her, but you have a hard time putting up with her bull____ inconsistencies.

2) She is pregnant... so a little "benefit of the doubt" comes in. Remember who you are, what you say you are, and never break that. If you love her, continue to love her, just don't take the bull____ to heart. When the hormones talk, you don't have to listen.

3) When she says "I want my space"... you say... "Fine"... and give it to her. She'll eventually come back, these needy co-dependant types always do. She will either choose to be a part of your life, or eventually, she'll choose not to. Only thing that sucks, is now there's a baby in the picture.

The only thing I'd worry about is her eventually cheating on you, which might sound odd now... but her actions are following a specific pattern I've seen all too many times before. The fact that she's carrying your child doesn't matter when she's addressing emotional flaws.
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In fact, I can confidently say from a medical standpoint, she's got something called "Borderline Personality Disorder." (I've had the Psych medical school classes, but am not board certified in Psych, so take it with a grain of salt). May want to have that addressed at some point in the near future.

 

dude dump her

 

What is happening to this world? I can't believe what I just read. So sad!

 

no ish lol im with becka tc and whiteout dump her ..you dont need bs in your life ...if you stay with her it will most likely get worse ..i was in the same spot, was with a gf for about 8 years had 2 kids and i just could not keep doing everything so i decided to save some money on the side and leave her ...im now so happy with my new fiance i can be me and not worrie about kid bs myspace, facebook crap ...this is very dumb reason to argue..ive lived iwth my girl for 2 years in kansas city and now moved back to cali for a bit to get my school done..she supports me 100% and cant wait till im done to be back home..ive been gone for almost a year now but try and visit when i can ...if your girl can not trust you then there is a major problem . trust is the key to a good realationship ,not face book and myspace .

 

this is gospel:

Myspace and/or facebook (or any "social networking" site for that matter) ruin relationships.

 

thats why i said trust is key ..myspace and face book should not be a issue if you have trust...but it can ruin it for some..

 

WTH? What is she 12?

I understand pregnancy makes emotions go nuts but this is beyond that.....have fun my friend.

 

let me get one more important piece of info: this pregnancy was UNPLANNED.

i've only known her for about 7 months before we found out. yea, we were dumb but it happened, and now a kid is on the way.

problem was my parents never met her and her parents never met me. so imagine telling them a complete stranger has my kid. obviously both parents were going nuts when we told them the news. my gf has a lot of anger towards my parents who do not approve of marriage because they've seen/heard about her personality. she's also mad at the fact that i haven't gotten engaged to her yet or moved into her apt even though i'm with there whenever i'm not at work to take care of her. some nights i'll stay over, but other nights i'll go home and it ____es her off to the point where she said she'd rather not see me.

then she's tried to make me look like the _______ telling her friends that i'm not man enough to take responsibility, move in and take care of her. plus telling me that everyone in philly hates me for what i've done to her and not marrying her.


look i know she's pregnant, so i've been letting a lot of ____ slide and trying not to argue back too much. she apologizes later and has stated multiple times that she knows that she isn't perfect and is working on it.

i've only stated the negative things so far. she can be really sweet and caring towards me and those around me. but when she gets upset or ticked off, a ____ storm just seems to follow, sometimes filled with irrationality. i've seen many times where she lets her emotions get the better of her.




funny you mention that...my parents and some friends feel the same way about never seeing me again. ever since i began dating her, i see less and less of my friends and family since i'm with her all the time. but that's partially my fault because i wanted to be with her.



yea, i've been asking myself this for quite some time now.