Tuffcookie,
I am going through the same thing with my girlfriend. She pulled the same thing except she's not pregnent thank god.
You need to read this book. It will be your bestfriend. It's not expensive and can be found at Barns and Noble. Seriously buy it and study it. It will you through these situations. http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Dat...5281191&sr=8-9

 

thanks everyone for the tremendous support. i'm not perfect and i know i've made my share of mistakes in the relationship, but it's good to know i'm not totally at fault here.

gotta run to a training session for work now...

 

Your thread is back.

 

facebook and myspace kill relationships.

i read an article about a husband who got divorced from his wife, so she changed her status from married to single...

the husband went to her house one day and killed her over it.

he said it was embarrising that ppl could see that and would now know...

 

I think it's more the fact that we, as a society, have degraded to the point where labels and "strict quantification" of our interpersonal relationships are more important than the relationships themselves.

For example ... elementary school kids get "street cred" when they have a boy/girlfriend. Oh, they're popular, the girls/guys love him/her, so she must be a great person. They're the ones who get in relationships ONLY TO HAVE THE POWER TO BREAK THEM.... think about it.... you're in elementary school... what are you going to do, hold hands?

It's when people hang onto that mindset until they're 26, does that become damaging.

Combine that with some weird need for kids to publish every aspect of their daily lives... as if someone was always listening...



(well, someone is always listening... FB / MS owners who regularly sell your information to corporations for marketing purposes. For some reason, this surprises people.)

 

Mr. Turtle's got some good points.

I'll just be blunt, your girl is nuts. I dated a girl just like that a while back, and I didn't know how miserable I really was until we broke up. I'm not saying that's what you should do but your options have pretty much been laid out already:

1. Seek professional help (psychologist, not psychiatrist)... but this may result in her getting offended, yatta yatta yatta, spend a lot of money on a therapist, yatta yatta yatta. But it is the best choice if you want things to work out for the best for the future.

2. Pretend nothing's wrong. This'll only work the way you want it to if you're the one who sets the example in the relationship. From the sound of it, she's trying to go on a power trip but has very little oomph to back it up. If you treat this specific situation with the level of attention it really deserves (very little... it's a stupid fight), it'll give her time to think about it and she might see how stupid she was. This choice will result in two possibilities: 1. She'll think about it from your point of view and realize how dumb she was, or 2. Be completely selfish, think that she's the only person in the world who's right, and either dump you or cheat on you to get even. If she goes with the second option, or if you're even afraid that she would, then leave her now. You'll be so happy you did that you'll be laughing when you sign those child support checks. And, if she truly can be diagnosed as having a psychological problem, sue for custody on those grounds. You don't want your kid ending up like that.

I hate to say it but you're in a pretty poopy place, considering that she's pregnant... and I know you probably still like her a lot... but someone that's gonna want to break up over a stupid picture? Imagine what she'll want to break up over AFTER you guys have the kid.

 

I'd say give her some time. You did say y'all have some good times. Every now and then most chicks turn stupid for a few days. Just avoid her for like a week or two and she should mellow out. You could try and figure out what's wrong, if you really want to, but it's not going to stop it from happening again. Ignorance is bliss, cause you can always say, 'But I didn't know!?' Nah, just go on a fishing trip. Celebrate the Phillies win. If they ever start to explain, just fake an asthma attack or something.

Bro, I'm just kidding... mostly. But if there's even a little bit of good there, do what you can to save it. What if's suck later on.

 

oh god...

this is only going to end in disaster.

and about the GF, do what every proud husband has to do for the rest of his life.
"yes honey, sorry honey...."

 

Or do what a real husband should do and pimp slap her

 

ohhhh tc owners....
these are TERRIBLE suggestions! :/

 

Any updates?

 

What I want to know is, how bad was she BEFORE she got pregnant?

I wouldn't rush to a diagnosis online of Borderline Personality Disorder (I've taken a few psychology classes myself).

Pregnancy is a... umm... well it's very different amongst women. I've known friends who were pregnant who were actually quite pleasant to be around. My sister lived with us for a bit when she was pregnant (well through her whole pregnancy), and well... satan himself would have cowered in the corner from her outbursts. One minute she'd be so happy it was sickening, the next second she was the most miserable, nasty, evil person in the world, making sure everyone else around her was just as if not more miserable. Hormones are an amazing thing (not necessarily in a good way). Further along in the pregnancy it gets worse, because the woman is putting on weight, which can make them self conscious, their feet swell, they're miserable.

If she wasn't that bad before her pregnancy, hang in there. It'll still be rough for a bit after the baby is born, because after the baby is born a woman's body goes through alot of hormonal changes as well, "going back to normal",... and it won't happen overnight either.

If she's always been like this to some degree, she needs a PSYCHOLOGIST. If she's always been like this, you need to set boundaries. If you keep bending to her will every time she spazzes out, she'll keep doing it. Go with her to a psychologist, go on a session with a psychologist on your own as well, and privately address your concerns about the way she's acting and the relationship.

AND most importantly, whatever you do, DO NOT STAY WITH HER JUST BECAUSE OF THE CHILD!! My parents stayed together for YEARS just for us kids, and it only ended up doing more damage in the long run. Kids are a lot smarter than people give them credit for. If/when parents stay together just because of the kids and are miserable, kids sense that. They sense when their parents arn't happy, and even if they don't directly voice it, it does affect them. It's healthier for a child growing up having 2 parents who are separated and happy, than together and miserable.