Is it possible? Yes.

Should it be your first choice? No.

I'm telling you, check out the internet dating sites. It's not all bad!

If you have trouble meeting women and talking to them, online can be a great place to break the ice with people who are looking for the same thing you are: someone to have a fulfilling relationship with.

 

Yeah its just nice to meet someone in person to see how they act before anything occurs ROFL to your sig

 

You just told me a little bit ago that you don't talk to many women. If you have personal, face to face communication skills, then talk to more women out in public! Coffee shops, libraries, Church! All great places to meet women. Put yourself out there in some place other than a strip club.

 

But how can you do it and not see like all you want is to be with them. I mean this is not my first rodeo and all but recent women I have met have hurt me and I dont like it

 

No.

She comes to work to just have fun? She needs to find some friends & do stuff outside of that environment then. She's not a stripper to you? Yet you pay her to do stuff for you. Again, doesn't make sense. If she really did care about you, then a) she wouldn't have a problem hanging out with you, if after all she goes to work to have fun, HAVE FUN OUTSIDE OF WORK, there's no logic in her not seeing you outside of the strip club. b) & if she cared about you, she wouldn't take your money; it's evident she's using you.

Majority of the opinions here:

-she's using you
-she's addicted to money
-she IS a stripper regardless of what you think
-she's toying with your emotions
-her job is to seduce/use guys to quench her addiction to money
-she's clearly pointed out she has issues
-..........and more.
-AND SCIONLIFE IS THE NEW DR. PHIL.

 

That's what I came in here to say.

Go for 2 weeks without dishing out a single dollar for her. Odds are, she'll forget about you and find another guy to suck the money out of. No pun intended.

 

Come man you alittle common sense, of course she wants you there, you are giving her money. Just move on and find a girl that is not a stripper. Also you in your threads where your car was broke down you said you didn't have money to fix it but you have money to spend on a stripper? Doesn't make too much sense.

 

say in your profile that you're looking for friends at first. Everyone else on there is just as nervous as you are. We all get hurt and yes, it sucks. It's all about getting back in the game and LEARNING from your past experiences. What you should have learned from your present situation: Don't "date" strippers. I use quotations because you're not actually dating her. You're being toyed with.

 

thats exactly what i was referring to

 

True. But I have gone there on serveral occasions all I did was sit there and had some drinks and she came over and sat down and talk to me and she knew I did not have any money at all and she was cool with it she sat for a bit and then asked me if it was okay if she went to go work and try to get some money. We had a talk about money and she told me that if I didnt have money if and when we dated she would just go get it from work. She never asks me if she can have money or if I want a dance or vip but on a blue moon she will and if I say yeah she doesnt try to pry more money out of me

To: kiss kiss
Yes SL is Dr. Phil. Maybe we should sticky this or make a DR.Phill thread lol

 

You're in the club. Ordering drinks. You're asking for our opinions, and when we give them, you give lame reasons why you should continue on the way you are.

 

Where's Bzinn when you need him...

 

as a person who has dated a few people that has had an occupation in that uhm.. "field"..

it just needs to be a judgment call on your behalf.. look for the subtle details of her just using you... however, keep your heart a safe distance until you really know she's sincerely committed

no matter what you do.. there's still a possibility of you getting burned even when she doesn't mean to hurt or use you.

too many factors come into play...

is it a great idea to date one? maybe not...
is it possible? sure..

but work and personal life need to be separated... that's the first step.

 

we're not trying to guide you wrong here streetracer.

 

Not spiked drinks or anything. Like I said it sounds bad but I go there to relax and just talk to ppl there I lost alot in my life and that to me is the only thing keeping my sane besides working on my pos tc at the moment

 

Again, you don't make sense. How did you pay for the drinks then? Obviously she thinks you have the money to spend on her when clearly you have money in your pocket to order drinks.

Not all strippers are strippers aye?

You're trying to get involved with a chick who BLATANTLY just said she's gonna go strip to make some money.

You also said she only goes there to have fun.

You're not takin ANYBODY'S advice here. So basically, you have your mind set. Go get serious with this girl.

*kicks back & waits for the "I just got played by a stripper who I thought was my gf" post*

Your excuses = fail.

 

I know you guys are not and I thank you guys so much this is why i post things like this on sl because I like talking to all kinds of ppl and in the field i talk to ppl everyday but not in a good way and its good to hear what people have encounter over the years.

Squallheart- did you date someone in that *field*?

 

There are other places to meet and talk to people.

The general feeling in a strip club is sexual. This is not a good basis to start any relationship. I understand that you've lost alot, but going to a hollow place like a strip club is not going to help. You fall for strippers, they leave another hole in your heart when they leave.

 

..............& in your wallet.

You forgot that, shupes. haha

 

that too.