Jenn is right! You need to do what is best for you. It is hard for us to speculate. You don't say if you want it to work out or not...but it might be worth a shot. On the other hand you are still young....so it hurts now, but time will heal.

 

I used to be in a 4yr relationship that ended not the way i wanted so i know the feelings you might be having right now. Best advice I can give from experience: alcohol (in excess) and drugs don't work, surrounding yourself with positive people helps a lot (family, good friends), exercise or any strenuous activity is a good distraction like going for a jog, playing basketball or football(I lost about 25lbs of fat when i did that). and when you're out of the funk and when you're ready, you'll be surprised how easy it will be to meet new women. Don't worry you'll get through this and it will make you stronger. and don't be hesitant to hit up Brian and the rest of us. We're here if you need us.

 

oh! i remember what i did to get over mine.. i go to 24 hr fitness a lot now... =) ill hitchu up when i come up to seattle!

 

I'd bang one of her friends.

 

Soooo wrong on so many levels. Wow can you imagine if women thought like this? Geez

 

Again NOT good advice

 

Actually, that was meant to make him laugh, which makes everyone feel better!

 

Actually i do know some women like that. lol

 

X2!

 

That is very sad....

 

Seriously though, when i got divorced a few years back, i hit the gym hard, daily, and got in the best shape of my life, and then met the best girl ever, when i wasn't even looking. Just got married to her last week. The right one will come along when you are least expecting it. Good luck man.

 

Thanks guys, most of your suggestions are things I have and will be considering. I really appreciate it guys. Others were comedy, thanks for trying to cheer me up.

You guys really have made me feel like I wasn't alone. (thanks Brian lol)

 

Normally I wouldn't reply here however thinking back when I was 20 and in school I'll add this... If the relationship is over then look toward the future and you have a lot of that in front of you.

- Keep communication open with her if she wants to - you may need a friend ya know. If she isn't into it then let it be.
- Take time to reflect on what happened, what was good what was bad. Try to learn from that.
- Dive into your studies for the remainder of the semester and make it a priority it will pay off in the future.
- Take time for your ride and or hobbies. Hang with your pals watch TV, relax when you can.
- Let the next person in your life find you. Don't go out looking for it just let it happen.

- It did that and now I've been married for over 16 years.

 

Thank you so much for your thoughtful response. This is exactly what I needed, you don't even know...

We just broke up. She says that she "loves" me, and I really believe her. She said she needs time to be alone, as in not a relationship with anyone. She said she needs to just figure everything out. I still love her, and I know, whether or not we get back together, she will always be there for me. She is my bestfriend, and as she said 15 minutes ago, I am her bestfriend still, as well.

Thanks guys, I couldn't have gone through this myself. You guys really helped me.

 

I guess it's time for me to change "myspace" "facebook" and "aim" statuses/profiles.

 

^you don't have to do it all at once. You should come up for the Marysville M&G though!!! Come on up and I'll buy you dinner!

 

thanks man, that sounds like a good plan.

 

lol, is that this Friday? All my weekends/days opened up now that I'm single.
Ps. you don't have to buy me dinner, just buy the lip kit from me (sorry trying to stay positive and have a sense of humor.)

Even though this just happened, I have been going through this for a the last couple days. I feel that the worst is over, because I was anticipating all of this. I just need to be constructive and positive.

Here I come Computer Science Programming assignment!!!

 

The worst part of life is right now.........what I meen by that is your head is just turning and turning and will not stop......a lost sense of direction....... empty........free .......damaged........ angry........ frustrated....... sad......scared..... bewildered.......obcessive...... tired.......

What I have seen from you you have a good healthy mind and a good look on life.......unlike me at your age I was very pulled into my self and very self destructive,very unsure of my self and what to do next......

In my wisdom of my own road........and going by your age........I would say focus on who you are right now........work on you.........focus on what can you do to make yourself a better person........write down your goals........and hunt them down.......

Make sure to only focus on what you can control in your own life.......

Being you are in school I would guess they have a counsler at the school......a person who is completely independant and could listen and help give you some focus tips.

Do not be afraid of meeting new women.......you area good looking guy with a lot to offer and women like that.....confidence in a man goes a long way.......a man who can listen and hold a conversation is a great thing........

At your age being friends with women is really a priority.......too young to tie yourself down........get your goals in front and seek them out like a demon......a man who takes care of himself first when he is young can better take care of others when the time comes in life.

I never imagined meeting my wife........she was not the person in my head who I was going to marry.......but so many years later I am so grateful to have her......we are a team.......we are not perfect by any means.......LOL....far from it.

But we have learned to work together and grow together......

But the first thing I had to do was put myself first and clean my own head out and get my own demons to speak to go and then I was able to move forward and really live.

And even though I got short,fat and funny looking.........and a lot weirder over the years.........life is good and my heart is strong and healthy as is my mind......

So remember........this will pass and the future holds what it will........go see what is there for you.........the past is gone......walk tall and see where this new road takes you........

And remember........you have a large team of good friends who beleive it or not have stood right where you are right now..........

 

^ those are a lot of dots. you seem uncertain with your advice