The cause of that problem right there, is that you were going after "GIRLS", not "WOMEN". There is a huge difference. I have 2 very interesting scenarios for you (true stories).

My one ex: back in 2001, I met this guy named Mike. I had gotten my first Sunfire and that's when I really started getting into modding cars heavily, he had a 2002 Ford Focus hatchback. Here's a strange twist of events: HE whined and complained because I spent too much time with the car club and on my car, talking about my car... etc. (In reality, at the time my car hobbie habits were not that time consuming). We split because he wasn't too crazy about the fact that I knew more about cars then he did. (well that was a major contributing factor). Maybe it was intimidating to him, I don't know. A few months after we started dating, I landed an apprenticeship at an auto body shop, and begun a 5 year career in collision repair/paint. (One of the cars I did made it into 2 small domestic magazines, and is used as an example on THE company website of the paint I used on it. Link below:

http://www.alsacorp.com/products/spe...rafx_show2.htm The green/blue Sunfire I did ALL the body work and paint on... took over 170 hours, I have progress pics.

The other ex: met him at a car show/race. We dated for a while, but his car obsession was utterly rediculous... even for me. He blew me off for over 2 months for his car, couldn't even call and say he was thinking about me. (went broke buying a supercharger, then had other car problems, didn't have the money to see me, or so he said.) Here's the thing, he lived like, 52 miles away. I could have understood being broke because he dumped and had to fix a ton of stuff on his car to get it to where he wanted it to be (he "cheaped out" on his s/c install... the company that installed it even told him he needed other parts to get what he wanted out of it, he refused). I am by no means greedy, so I could have understood to a point, had he at least made an effort to show he cared by calling just to say hi or that he missed me now and then. It wasn't just me either, he became so obsessed with his car he blew off EVERYONE... and lost many friends in the process. I offered to help him with his car, but his temper was so horrible when it came to working on any car, I didn't want to be in the path of flying tools when things weren't going his way. I broke it off. Then, I got the whole "but I love you, I miss you... blah blah blah". I told him unless something changed, there was no chance of trying a relationship again. He changed, I gave him another chance, and within 2 months he was right back to where he was before, and I ended it for the last time. It wasn't just the car either, but it was a big contributing factor.

His attitude was more along the lines of "if it doesn't benefit me and only me directly, I don't want anything to do with it". "If I don't feel like it, I don't care". I'm sorry, but for a relationship to work, both parties have to be willing to make sacrifices now and then, it's a partnership, not a "I'm only looking out for me" thing.

So, I understand the whole "my car is #1" to a point, but in reality... your girl/guy should be #1 (unless you have children, then they come first), and your car a close second. Cars die, they get into accidents and get totaled, your significant other is going to be there.


I'm very low maintanance. I don't need to spend countless hours doing my hair and makeup, don't need to go shopping all the time (I actually hate shopping, unless it's for car parts lol) I don't need someone to take me out ALL the time, buy me things all the time,... nothing like that at all. Heck, if someone actually does buy me something, half the time I don't even know how to show appreciation. Not because I don't appreciate it, but because I grew up never having much... so half the time I don't know how to react properly. Over the years I've been slowly climbing out of the "hole" and getting on the track to where I want to be. Doesn't take much to make me happy. To me, it's more the thought behind something, than the "something" itself. I'd much rather have something my significant other put time and thought into himself, than just going out and buying something. Like, if he's in the area, just drop by a leave a little note on my car saying he was thinking about me. Write a poem (even if it's crappy, it's the effort that matters lol), or if I say "hey that's cool *points to object*" or if I say "man, I really need this *points to something I need but can't obtain at the moment". Next thing I know, there's a box with said object in it. It's knowing he was listening that means the most. (yeah, so I'm a hopeless romantic lol... but I'm also incredibly fun-loving, and am very witty and like to joke around). A major plus is sharing the love for the car modding hobby/sport.

What more could a guy ask for? LMAO. A girl that's low maintanance, easy to please, and loves cars. Mr. Right will come around some day... until that time... mod away!

 

Heyyyyyy,.... How YOU Do'in?????



You live in PA? @($*(*($(*&#(&@@). *sigh*. Too far away.

 

It has been my experience that some guys really do just want some arm candy...but if a guy is truly into his car, what could be better than a partner to work together on?

My bf and I both got our tCs around the same time. We were already a couple. He had big plans for his tC, but I really just wanted to get to know people in the Scion scene.

So far, together we have installed 2 turbos, 2 interiors, changed hoods, body kits, steering wheels, and countless other mods all together. It is nice to have something like this in common. There are areas that I know more than him about cars, and there are areas that he knows more than me about our cars. It works out great that we can pool our resources and have two custom cars, one to each of our styles.

He treats me well and we go out and do things other than car stuff too, and I think that is what's most important. You can be car crazy... but you have to have something else together too. Having cars in common is good, but it takes more than that to keep things going.

 

Def not a reqirement, but I agree...it is nice. LOL

 

I see the guys have their own running poll...LOL!

 

Seems like most guys love women who are into cars...

 

No one else?

 

well.... back in Nov. 2003, I met my wife at a car meet in Edgewater, NJ. I came down with a local club northeasterntuners (I then owned a corolla) and she came with matrixowners.com. She ignored me all night suppposedly b/c I had too much facial hair and was poorly dressed. Meanwhile, the following week we were set up on a date. I saved and did my self up nice... and that is all she wrote... She has dumped a decent amount of money into modding her matrix, installed her own tail lights, helped me put my bodykit on in 13 inches of snow when it got ripped off and thoroughly yelled at me for spending way to much money on modding my car.
I love the fact that she into her car, I love the fact that she takes pride in her car standing out from the rest. I hate the fact that she knows me and cars enough that I cant get her to believe that a CF hood or cat back only cost me $100 shipped.

Girls that are into their cars are definitely hot... if they are mature in other areas it makes them more attractive... and if i could convince her to pose on my hood in a microskirt, halter and come f*ck me boots... i might not divorce her!!

 

I would

 

YAY!!!..... errr... .... uuuuhhh.... ... i mean... yeah... thats cool.... uhhh... *sigh*

sooo... i can keep you in mind if i do a photoshoot come spring?!?!?

 

nawwww
I meant I would divorce her if she were my wife and did that

 

ohhhhh.... i seee......

 

LOL!

 

It would be ideal to date a guy that would be into cars so he would be understanding when I would go to the meets where there will be like a 10 to 1 female ratio.

 

Interesting perspective....hadn't thought about it...My bf seems to get this whole Miami trip thing. That might be why. Some of his friends think hes nutz for "letting" me go. But he knows its all about the Scions baby!

Plus, he wants me to be a drifter...LOL! Says my next car will be a 240SX! So he gets it, hell he practically encourages it! Mi amor!

 

sounds like a keeper... haha.

 

He is...

 

Guess for the most part, guys are into girls who are into cars...who knew?

 

I guess it comes down to how much into cars a girl really is. I like to think I'm a gal thats is into cars. I'd love to mod mine alot more than I do, but lack of $$$ keeps me in the oohing and ahhing mindframe at mods I see on other cars at shows. I like to think I know alot about cars, but I really don't....I probably know more than the average female (who's not a car girl), but that's not saying much, lol. But I'd rather be at a car show than the mall if that'll win me any points. And I'm into all kinds of racing, mainly Nascar....dunno if that gains or loses me points, but I don't care. Being at the track and going deaf listening to those engines roar, and smelling the burning rubber of squealing tires, and feeling my heart rate beat tripletime as 43 cars scream past the start/finish line....wow, there's just nothing else in the world like it. So if owning a hot car, loving going to car shows (import or classic), and being a fan of racing constitutes as being a car girl, then count me in.

 

Hey cricketc, are you going to tunerwar since you are in PA? I was thinking about heading that way.