oh it sure will
to the altar and then u'll be stuck with us forever and ever

 

hahahha good one

 

Not necessarily true...............what is the average time of a marriage now days..........lol

 

Funny because its true.

 

:D sorry nice guys

 

so, nice guys.... well, yeah, they finish last. is that so bad? I mean, i'm a nice guy. i never get a leg up, but i can count on that. i know where i stand. and most importantly, i have my integrity at the end of the day. if you hate who you are, what good is that?

if this woman is the only woman for you, then you should go after her. she has obviously lost interest in you. personally, i would leave it at that, but to each his own. that makes a long and bumpy road back, also. even if she'll have you again. plus, you would have to keep up the 'game-face' you used to get her back. not an ideal situation and potentially disastrous.

 

Wow...I guess I'm still running the race because I haven't finished yet. I figued "last" meant when I'm 30...haha....j/k. Great to hear you found your other half.

hmmm....okay. yeah, I agree with the "point in their life" that they are. There are alot of factors that take play in what women look for and need. However, I still believe that no matter what maturity level they are at, they still don't want a boring, cliche' relationship. My guess, I have taste in the wrong women. I guess I always seem to be attracted to the same "type" of girl.

"Too Nice"

I guess you have a point on that...I don't believe I let a girl wrap me around her finger tho. If anything...I would wrap myself around her finger before she would. I know this isn't good...that's why I've learned to stay away from those situations.

I believe that's a good motto for relationships. "treat me like I treat you"

haha..."just respectufully inputtin my 2 cents"...that you did. I was hoping this would spark an interesting "respectful" discussion.

 

Don't buy that "Depends what point in their lives they're at" stuff... You NEVER wanna be the nice guy, waiting in the wings.

That's exactly what happens to all those "nice guys"... She goes out and has all of her fun with "bad boys" when she's young and hot, then when she gets older and needs a husband with a real job who can be a good father to her kids, she goes knocking at Mr. Nice Guy's door.

So all you nice guys out there keep waiting. Keep being just friends... After she's had her fun with ME she'll go looking for you.

-THE DON

 

Hmmm…..I think we are on the same wavelength.

Words of wisdom folks. You can doubt, deny and justify all you want, but this is sooooo true.

 

No, that’s actually the motto for a good friendship.

 

A post for the guys:

1) Be a man. Dont be afraid to say no, and DO NOT be afraid to walk away from ANY relationship ( or hook-up, FWBs, etc.) if you are being taken advantage of.

2) You are not a wallet. Do not let yourself be treated like one.

3) Do not mess around with coworkers if you like your job. (Yes, I already said that. I am saying it again.)

4) Marriage is highly overrated and divorce is VERY expensive. Do not do either.

 

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Will Do Sir

 

Women like the challenge of the "Bad Boy". They think they can change them. In the end, the good guy wins, but sometimes (for the woman) it is too late. They should have realized what they lost or could have had sooner.

Also, women make a commitment when they have sex with a guy. Bad or good, that is when a woman makes a commitment to a guy. Bad Boys tend to be more agressive when it comes to that aspect and that is why they win up front.

You can be a nice guy, but you have to be a little controlling, but not really be controlling. A woman likes to know that you can take charge and make a decission and protect them.

JMHO

I am a "Nice Guy" that went through this before I met my wife who was into "Bad Boys" befor me. It took her being beat and used as a human punching bag and her son being used as one before she realized she needed a nice guy like myself. When I met her, I knew she is what I wanted and I went for it. I said, the night I met her, "That is my future wife". And it was...

 

yup that's exactly what i meant


glad she found someone deserving of her

 

I agree...but I wasn't going to wait for the same girl that rejected me. I was thinking more along the lines of finding the "nice girl".

that's a good observation though THE DON.

 

Never mind.

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9 times out of 10, nice guys finish last Sadly, that's just the way it is.

The reverse is also true though. Major hottie women are annoying liabilities that aren't worth the drinks you just bought them. They're always on the lookout for something better to come along.

Guys don't always fall for the church-going school teacher whose idea of fun is "dinner and a movie". The "big catch" in a woman is someone with natural beauty, a pleasant demeanor and becomes your personal sexual deviant when the sun goes down

That being said - I'm a 37 year old metalhead drinking wackjob with a really offbeat sense of humor. But I love my wife and 3 kids and show it every day.

It's all about balance. I'm not always nice. But i'm not always nasty.

 

-THE DON

 

i agree with the fact i am who i am and if you don't like that then fine. I don't mind pursuring someone as long as i am not wasting my time. I don't have a problem with just walking away becuase i have in the past. In fact that is what i decided to do in this case but part of me did want to just put it out there that i knew and let the chips fall as they may. Because with my big thing is respect if you don't treat me with respect then i am thru and right or wrong I tend to be a little coldhearted to those people that don't.

As far as work goes we work in complettly different departments at work in rarely see each other at work. so I am not worried about that effecting work.

also i agree when you fall into the "friend zone" the girl gets what she wants the best of both worlds the bad boy and the nice guy who listens nd makes her feel good. so in way the nice guy becomes her emotional tampon when she needs him to make her feel better or listen and the she throws him out until she needs him again.
i don't let a girl wrap me around her finger even though i don't mind doing the nice things or little things.

so i just wanted to see what everyones thought was. It has been interesting and I hope to see more thoughts get posted on this topic to see how interesting this can be. just my 2 cents...