How do I get a decent relationship??
or u'll be in deep $hit 
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since you are san diego listen to tom leykis. he is on the radio from 3-7 and today at 5 he does a thing called leykis 101 which will teach you how to get laid for less money. you can even stream him on your computer if you are not in your car.
www.blowmeuptom.com
basically, you need to be man and treat girls like crap. the worse you treat them the more they will like you. sounds odd, but it is true. i don't mean hitting them or anything, just with your attitude. since you don't have confidence you are lost and will have a very hard time picking up girls. you sound desperate and girls will sense that and be turned off. as stated first, LISTEN to tom leykis.
www.blowmeuptom.com
basically, you need to be man and treat girls like crap. the worse you treat them the more they will like you. sounds odd, but it is true. i don't mean hitting them or anything, just with your attitude. since you don't have confidence you are lost and will have a very hard time picking up girls. you sound desperate and girls will sense that and be turned off. as stated first, LISTEN to tom leykis.
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Originally Posted by xlr8tC
well, i haven't seen anyone post an answer to the root of his problem. first and foremost, you need to know what you are looking for in a woman. you need to decide how nice her body has to look to you. how pretty her face needs to be for you. how smart she needs to be? what kind of humor does she need to find funny? does she have the passion you are looking for? how deeply does she need to care for the important things in her life? is she as into the physical part of the relationship as you?......
there are more than that, but you need to know exactly what you're looking for and you need to know what ways you are willing to compromise on those criteria.
If you don't know what you are after, no pick up line in the world is going to help you because it doesn't take a woman long to figure out that you have no idea what you're looking for. not a very appealing situation for her. so, she will want to leave. I'm not saying you can't change your mind, but you have to start with something. It may take a while and a few girlfriends to figure out exactly what it is you want, but that's the nature of the beast.
once you know what you want from a relationship it is easier to be confident. and breaking up isn't as tough either if you can reason it out and figure out where the problem lies. Little indicators like being ambivalent while choosing dinner or a movie are clues to her that you are not that confident. Always have a choice made up in your mind. don't say "I don't care, whatever you want." She wants you to decide and have an opinion.
To know what you want, you need to know what she wants, and why. Women are looking for a rock of a man that stands in the water against the current. Not a push-over. They want someone that will take a stand and knows what he wants despite the hardships that may follow. They want someone dependable, reliable, exciting, and spontaneous. Someone that knows how to romance her when she's off her game and makes her feel like the most important person in the world. Someone that will help her through tough times and make her smile in spite of all of her, and your, woes. She needs to know you care, not just at special times, but at random times. just sending a box of chocolates or flowers to her work often does the trick.
Please note that those are general guidelines and don't apply to every woman.
there are more than that, but you need to know exactly what you're looking for and you need to know what ways you are willing to compromise on those criteria.
If you don't know what you are after, no pick up line in the world is going to help you because it doesn't take a woman long to figure out that you have no idea what you're looking for. not a very appealing situation for her. so, she will want to leave. I'm not saying you can't change your mind, but you have to start with something. It may take a while and a few girlfriends to figure out exactly what it is you want, but that's the nature of the beast.
once you know what you want from a relationship it is easier to be confident. and breaking up isn't as tough either if you can reason it out and figure out where the problem lies. Little indicators like being ambivalent while choosing dinner or a movie are clues to her that you are not that confident. Always have a choice made up in your mind. don't say "I don't care, whatever you want." She wants you to decide and have an opinion.
To know what you want, you need to know what she wants, and why. Women are looking for a rock of a man that stands in the water against the current. Not a push-over. They want someone that will take a stand and knows what he wants despite the hardships that may follow. They want someone dependable, reliable, exciting, and spontaneous. Someone that knows how to romance her when she's off her game and makes her feel like the most important person in the world. Someone that will help her through tough times and make her smile in spite of all of her, and your, woes. She needs to know you care, not just at special times, but at random times. just sending a box of chocolates or flowers to her work often does the trick.
Please note that those are general guidelines and don't apply to every woman.
Well, well I was ok..cant believe I am gonna spill my guts out But I was a late bloomer first off, never had a Father in my life to teach me the ropes about dating and getting a girl...I basically had to figure stuff out on my own!...I could of gotten laid "a lot"...I was nervous and didnt know what to do so I wussed out!!....and now I cant believe I wussed out!...Anyways I been "denied" and "laughed at"...a lot and cuz of this I have a "low self-esteem" and I dont think I am attractive becuz no girls come up and talk to me or even look my way!..really shy when it comes to girls too!...
Thats my problem...I am a wussy boy...lol...
I just want to experience being in a reltionship...
Thats all I ask!!...
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ah just be real, and keep the smile going. It can be infectious. And be a friend, not just a "partner".
This past week while down south on vacation, when i surprised my wife on our 20th anniv with a renewal of our vows, at sunrise, on a beach in FL......... she returned that smile, and the eyes were sparkling just like they did 2 decades ago. Moments like that are worth every up & down that goes with a relationship.
Now if she happens to read this..... maybe she'll get all sappy again and let me take her TC tomorrow...... whooo hooo
This past week while down south on vacation, when i surprised my wife on our 20th anniv with a renewal of our vows, at sunrise, on a beach in FL......... she returned that smile, and the eyes were sparkling just like they did 2 decades ago. Moments like that are worth every up & down that goes with a relationship.
Now if she happens to read this..... maybe she'll get all sappy again and let me take her TC tomorrow...... whooo hooo
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update to earlier post: i do get to take the TC today, so all the romance really works... uh what's that honey? Oh, it needs gas?
See, like I always say: it's about give and take.... i give her a full tank of gas, and i get to take the car for the day.... that's how you make it 20 yrs and counting...
See, like I always say: it's about give and take.... i give her a full tank of gas, and i get to take the car for the day.... that's how you make it 20 yrs and counting...
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I think the most important thing you can do before you EVEN APPROACH a woman is accept yourself for who you are. Look yourself in the mirror and say "I like who I am." Now don't overdo it and become infatuated with yourself but you have to work on liking yourself before anyone will like you. And the most important thing which has been repeated on here over and over again is "Be yourself". That's what makes it easy, you'r enot trying to hide behind some facade.
Next, remind yourself that you are "interviewing" the other person just like they are "interviewing" you. If they can't accept you for who you are, or they are too shallow or materialistic... Then they aren't worth dating anyway. Drop them and go on to the next chick. Don't try forever going after the same girl who just might be leading you on. It just leads to heartache. Remember there are millions of women out there, and everyone is different in some way.
Also remember that NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has some flaw... it may not be physical but it could be psychogical... So keep that in mind too when you see that stunning beauty that seems out of reach because you think you're "out of her league" or your "not good looking enough".
I hope I helped you somewhat. Plus once you actually find a girlfriend that sticks around, sooner or later you'll be missing the single life... I know I am.
Next, remind yourself that you are "interviewing" the other person just like they are "interviewing" you. If they can't accept you for who you are, or they are too shallow or materialistic... Then they aren't worth dating anyway. Drop them and go on to the next chick. Don't try forever going after the same girl who just might be leading you on. It just leads to heartache. Remember there are millions of women out there, and everyone is different in some way.
Also remember that NO ONE is perfect. Everyone has some flaw... it may not be physical but it could be psychogical... So keep that in mind too when you see that stunning beauty that seems out of reach because you think you're "out of her league" or your "not good looking enough".
I hope I helped you somewhat. Plus once you actually find a girlfriend that sticks around, sooner or later you'll be missing the single life... I know I am.
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Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does... 
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Originally Posted by BSP_5c10n
Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe)
hey it's not very nice of you to give out our sectrets!!! wtf 
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Originally Posted by tC4italy
hey it's not very nice of you to give out our sectrets!!! wtf 
I have you all figured out! NOT really we men are still many many years away from unlocking the code to the woman psyche... 
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this crap about "I dont think I am attractive becuz no girls come up and talk to me or even look my way!" it's jus that, crap! You can't use that excuse cause i def know some smokin hot girls with some quazimoto looking guys. Dood if Brad Pitt was really shy and didn't have an out going personailty then he wouldn't get chicks. You ever meet a smokin hot girl, then she starts to talk and is all shy or really emo, they're soooo annoying, it def doesn't make me want to talk to them. And girls probably do throw you a stare, but it seems like your too scared to look up and see. It's nice to look at life with your eyes open and your head up. God i sound like a halmark card.
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Originally Posted by BSP_5c10n
Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does...
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Originally Posted by BSP_5c10n
Oh yeah and don't let "they might have a b/f" stop you from talking to them. First of all, they may NOT have a b/f and you'll never know until you talk to them or at least see them with some other guy (which may NOT even be their b/f, just a wannabe). Second of all, just because they're "taken" doesn't mean they're not still looking. She might be planning on dumping the guy she's with anyway. Just talk to her, if she doesn't seem interested at all... Oh well. But if she does...
take some time and review this information. it will get you on the right track of meeting and taking out girls to find that true girl you are looking for. girls are really simple once you know how they think since most of them think like guys.
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be comfortable around her, find something both like and have a good conversation, be confident, dont look at other girls, eye contact, good hygiene is a plus, dont fart or burp until you know she feels comfortable around you doing that stuff, dont be too shy, plan dates, be yourself when having a convo and just let it flow.....dont think too much and it will be alrite, just have fun 
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