I have known this girl for 6 years, off and on we talked and stayed friends. This summer I moved to NC and we started dating. Things were great in the beginning and we have alot in common, did things together, got along really really well. Well things went south a few weeks ago and we started arguing alot and fighting about really stupid trivial things, things that would not even matter in the big scheme of things. I know we have only been dating for 4 months, I grew really attached to her and would do anything in the world for her. Well yesterday she decided that she valued our friendship so much that she did not want to ruin any chances of having that friendship and she said that we needed to just be friends for now. Thats cool and all, and I completely understand that but its really hard to let her go and not think about it. I asked if possibly we could work this out and she stated that right now the best approach is to keep it as friends, and that we don't know the future. I guess I can understand that but it sucks. The wierd thing is that when she told me this yesterday I did not cry and I kinda feel relieved in a wierd way. The entire relationship was all about her and she told me that no matter what, she is always right and she had to have everything her way, she is very OCD and RARELY budged on anything. I guess the arguing started because i started to feel resentment because it was hard for me to do what i wanted and when i wanted, it was always her way. Thinking back now, at the beginning she shared smiliar interests but it looks like she did that just to make me happy, she did not understand the whole Scion thing and car shows and modding etc. Long story short, I just dont know how to get over this, oh and one more thing, I see her everyday....

any ideas would be nice and helpful.

Thanks

 

I think you said it best when you felt relieved to hear about it. If you're not happy in the relationship, and you don't feel like it goes both ways, then perhaps you're better off as friends.

Take a break, be there for her, and see what happens.
It's not fun to have to be around someone that you have feelings for, but just try to take a step back and realize that you weren't really all that happy when you were dating. Sounds like you got along better as friends.

 

Sounds like she is a real PITA. There needs to be compromises by both sides in order to make a relationship work. The best and fastest way to get over her is to start dating another girl. Also try to not see her as frequently as you did before.

 

Wish it was that easy, we work together

 

ahhh man, go ahead about your business man, conduct yourself in a business manner at work, but like a few other guys said, if you aint happy in a relationship you need to get out of it. Should be a mutual 50/50 relationship, shouldnt be all about her, she'll realize that sooner or later.

PS: My uncle always told me, "never get your Pu**y where u get your paycheck"

 

I have stuck my pen in company ink before and it turned out not so good, should have listen to my gut...

 

You're stuck in the friend zone.

 

I have stuck my pen in company ink before and it turned out not so good, should have listen to my gut...[/quote]

Shoot i have too, thats how i know, its not a good thing to date a co worker, leave it alone, it aint worth it.

 

yeah it sucks. just hard to not think of what we had..

how do i keep from feeling like i caused this?

i am sorry for talking, but i need to talk....

 

Most people rely on alcohol.

 

You're stuck in the friend zone. If she was really only pretending to be interested in you in the beginning then she's not worth much. I prefer to be in a relationship where we're both right or wrong and it was about both of us instead of centered around the other person.

How did you cause this? She's the one who wanted to be friends, not you. She might be seeing someone else or trying to start something with another guy, who knows. If she doesn't want to talk about it period, then you're going to have to force yourself over it

I hate it when girls make guys feel lik crap, gives the rest of us bad reps